The Sedona Method and Goal Setting

The thing I don't like about most self-help, goal-setting processes, is that they simply assume that the goals that you're setting yourself are legitimate goals which are coming from God, the Universe or your Higher Self. They do not seem to factor baseless fantasies into the equation. I will admit that I don't know much about The Secret or the Law of Attraction, but I would say that I do have quite a lot of experience in self-help in general. I have to say that the Sedona Method and The Work are the best self-help methods that I have ever used. The Sedona Method offers the practitioner success, but at the same time, it doesn't make all sorts of promises that you will have whatsoever you dream about.

It often hurts when we come to the truth that a lot of the so-called goals that we set ourselves are simply the expression of wants such as control, security, approval, separation or oneness. There are many single people, for instance, who long to get married out of a want for approval or oneness. Conversely, there are probably just as many married people who long for divorce out of a want for separation or control. I don't know what your goals are and I certainly don't know what your motives are behind them; but I do know that many of us have the same kind of wants and we often have the same kind of ideas of what will bring us fulfilment. I mean, who among us does not desire more money as a means of fulfilment? Not that money is wrong in itself - it is the want and motive behind it that is wrong. First Timothy 6:10 says, "For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil."

The Sedona Method, I believe, is unique in that it presents primarily one single goal: imperturbability – not allowing anything to perturb you. The Sedona Method does not say that you cannot achieve success or that you cannot achieve your heart's desire. The Sedona Method does not attempt to dissect and analyse particular goals and to make black lists of what is right and what is wrong. But what the Sedona Method does offer practitioners is the freedom to enjoy life with or without the accomplishment of that goal.

We often become fooled in believing that we cannot be happy until we have actually accomplished a goal. Whereas, the truth of the matter is that we can be just as happy whilst striving to attain a goal as we can be when we have actually accomplished the goal. The Sedona Method offers the opportunity to allow practitioners to let go of the wants – wants which either give rise to the illusion of false goals or those things which are holding us back from attaining our genuine goals.

For a long time, it has been accepted in self-help circles that thinking about the accomplishment of certain goals, and desiring to have them, is the means by which they may be attained or accomplished. But this really does depend on the person's emotional state i.e. if they are in AGFLAP or CAP. I have struggled with anxiety for most of my life, and I can tell you, I can dream a lot and desire a lot about the accomplishment of all kinds of goals. I can dream big dreams - but that doesn't get me any closer to their accomplishment!

After we release on our goals enough, the goal changes from a want (a dramatization of lack) to a choice (an expression of completeness); from being hypnotized in a dream and getting frustrated by it, to actually taking positive action for its accomplishment. You come to the realisation that you are responsible to a great extent for what you experience in life, whether positive or negative, and you start steering it.

As for being passionate about a goal: there are all sorts of passions. A counterproductive passion would be pining for something and wondering whether you will ever have it. A productive passion would be feeling a deep sense of satisfaction and joy that the goal is already yours; a profound sense of having and gratitude for life's plenty, and the awe that the "goal" was so easy to accomplish and utterly inevitable.